<Letter exchange trouble> [Part 1] Letter exchange is mounting. Is it a monpe to let the garden decide the rules?

In some kindergartens and nursery schools, children start exchanging letters with each other. There must be some mothers who smiled when they saw the words "I love you" that their children had worked so hard to write on scraps of notebooks and origami paper. However, as the school year progresses, some children may be particular about "paper", saying, "I don't like this paper," or "I want a cute pattern." The mother who sent the post said that she was at a loss because of her daughter, who was escalating all year round with requests for things like stationery to use for exchanging letters.

"When my daughter was young, I received a letter from a good friend, and while desperately practicing writing letters, the letter exchange began. Now that I'm in the middle of the year, I'm communicating with a group of good friends, and I want stickers and letter paper one after another, and I'm proud of the stationery that is cuter than letters. Is it monpe to ask the homeroom teacher to decide the rules for exchanging letters? 』

While the person who submitted the letter hopes that the teacher will establish a rule for the overheating of the stationery, it seems that there is also a feeling of hesitation. We are waiting for your advice.

Let's try to find a solution at home

Because the exchange of letters is a private exchange, there were a lot of voices suggesting a solution at home rather than relying on teachers.

``Some people want to go to the educational field right now. Why don't you consult with a couple first? "I think so."

It's not limited to parenting, but sometimes you get stuck while thinking about solutions. By relying on the husband, it seems that there is a possibility that the burden that the mother was carrying will be reduced and that she will get unexpected ideas.

"I think it's good to exchange letters as a way to practice writing, but it's the parents' responsibility to escalate when their parents are involved. It can't be helped because each family's tolerance is different, but isn't that why we make conventions at home? "It's important to fit in with everyone, but I think it's fundamental to do things within a reasonable range."

Everyone swallows their thoughts in order not to disturb the harmony in a group life. It is important to adjust to the surroundings, but if you exceed your own acceptable level, you may be stuck in all directions. I want to keep in mind the unreasonable range.

"Monpe, I think you're a parent who can't tell your daughter."

If parents leave everything to the teacher to persuade their children, they may have a bad impression of "throwing it all round". However, it seems that the contributor was actually trying to persuade her, not just following her daughter's orders.

"I promise my child that I won't buy new stationery until I run out, but I can't help but pay attention to stickers and stationery."

The mothers in the group should decide the rules

Some mothers sympathize with the enthusiasm of their children, as they are excited about cute and colorful stationery goods. However, it is troublesome for the mother who prepares it to think of it as a burden. Why don't you set rules with moms in the group? "I received a proposal."

"It's fun because it's cute stationery and stickers. If you're going to set the rules, just be friends with moms.』

"You can't do anything unless you decide the rules with your friends' moms."

"If you ask a kindergarten teacher to set rules, won't exchanging letters be prohibited?" "If you are exchanging letters with good friends, I think you should discuss it with your parents."

The poster doesn't know the contact information of the mothers in her daughter's group, and even if she wants to talk to them, she doesn't have the opportunity to meet them because the number of events at the kindergarten has decreased due to the corona crisis. She seems to have come up with a request to her teacher there.

Ideas for moms who want to satisfy their daughter

The author provided an idea that can satisfy her daughter's feelings so that she doesn't have to rely on the teacher. There were also mothers.

``We sometimes get cute stationery, but in reply, I research various ways to fold `` cute ways '' and fold it and give it to you.

A general store for elementary and junior high school students has memo pad-type stationery with various patterns. There are various patterns, so I think I can use up one book without getting bored.”

If there are several patterns in one book, you can choose according to your mood, so writing a letter will be fun, isn't it? However, the boom in origami and notepads has passed for the daughters, and now stationery and envelopes are essential items. Furthermore, it seems that there is a certain concern if the letter paper with the same pattern is used every time.

A daughter who was ostracized because of her writing paper

"She began to say, ``You always have the same paper!'' It seems like I said that, but it's awkward, and it seems that sometimes you won't be able to play if you don't write a letter.』

It doesn't seem like your daughter's frequent need for new stationery was selfish. I'm sure she's confused because she's been left out of her circle for sticking to her promises to her mom. It's understandable that the author would be concerned.

At first, it was written on origami paper, but eventually the exchange of letters turned into a battle of stationery. After being overheated, the contributors got stuck and asked the moms if they should ask the teachers to set the rules. However, the problem was not the letter exchange itself, but the fact that she was being left out because of the type of letter paper. Again, the solution might be different.

What ideas do you have?

Continue to the second part.

Written by Nanami, edited by Aki Kimura, illustrated by Ngimamu

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